The term side was coined in 2013 by the sex therapist and author Dr Joe Kort, but only in the last year has it gained glimmers of acknowledgment in the wider gay world. “You’re made to feel like you’re less than a full gay person.” “A lot of people feel stigmatized,” said Lucien Samaha, 64, of New York City, who identifies as a side. Many sides say they’re subjected to widespread rejection and misunderstanding in the gay community, whose members often view them as immature, lazy or even asexual.